What does EFT Couples Therapy involve?


EFT Couples Therapy, or Emotionally Focused Therapy, is an effective form of relationship counseling. As an EFT Therapist, I focus on the underlying emotions and needs of you and your partner. When it feels like you are miles apart, EFT couples therapy provides a powerful method to restore the connection in your relationship.

EFT is rooted in attachment theory, where attachment and Emotionally Focused Therapy are closely intertwined. According to attachment theory, our primary human need is to emotionally bond with others. Therefore, EFT couples therapy aims to restore and enhance the emotional connection between partners when you are an expat couple or in a intercultural relationship.

Relationship Therapy in Leiden

Whether you've just embarked on a relationship adventure or have been together for a long time, regardless of your sexual preference, age, or family circumstances, EFT relationship therapy welcomes everyone.

Taking the first step can be challenging because agreeing together that guidance and support are welcome may be difficult. You can also come alone first and see if your partner is willing to join the process.

The motivation to seek therapy is as varied as the relationships themselves. What's most important is that both of you are willing to invest in your relationship.

Possible causes of relationship problems:

  • Unemployment
  • Infidelity
  • Moving/renovation
  • Young children
  • Loss
  • Grief
  • Illness


Bert Bavelaar | EFT couples Therapist and Psychologist

With 25 years of experience as a relationship therapist, I am convinced of the power of EFT couples therapy. With EFT, you can achieve results quickly.

Many couples see significant improvements in their relationship already in the second phase of therapy. As you gain insight into your patterns, you become better attuned to each other, reducing potential conflicts and allowing the growth of connection and intimacy within the relationship.


Procedure to Couples Therapy

Contact Relationship Therapy Leiden via WhatsApp, email, our contact form or phone, and we will schedule a brief introductory conversation. During this conversation, you can briefly explain your situation and what assistance you would like. I will share information about myself and my approach as a relationship therapist.


Intake for Therapy

If you wish to start a therapy process, we will schedule an intake session with you and (if applicable) your partner. During this intake session, we will explore your situation and the issues you would like assistance with. If all parties agree, I will create a treatment plan, and we will schedule a follow-up session.

How many sessions?

The duration of a relationship therapy program varies depending on the assistance required. On average, 6-8 joint sessions are needed. One of the partners may require individual sessions, which can run parallel with the relationship therapy program. Throughout the program, we regularly evaluate whether the relationship therapy and the process are proceeding as desired.


EFT Couples Therapy per session of 75 minutes €135



Relationship therapy is not eligible for health insurance coverage. However, individual sessions that run parallel to the program may be eligible for reimbursement.

Practical matters

Online Couples Therapy

The relationship therapy sessions can also take place online. Feel free to mention this during the introduction or throughout the program.


Couples Therapy

English spoken

We provide Couples Therapy in Dutch and English. Sessions can take place online or at our practice in Leiden at your convenience. Experience in Couples Therapy with Expat Families and multi-cultural relationships.

Canceling or rescheduling an appointment

Canceling or rescheduling an appointment is possible but must be done at least 24 hours in advance. In case of negligence, half of the fee will be charged. Invoicing typically occurs monthly via email and should be settled within 14 days.


Professional associations and quality

I am affiliated with NIP, NOLOC, EFT Nederland, NFG and RBCZ.


Couples therapy Characteristics

Gaining insight into your own patterns and those of your partner helps you understand each other better. I utilize my personal qualities as a Psychologist and Couples Therapist, being:

  • Results-oriented
  • Empathetic
  • Respectful
  • Open-minded
  • Connective

  • Praktijklocatie Leiden:
  • De Plek
  • Kanaalpark 157
  • 2321 JW Leiden

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06-5378 5113

(tussen 9.00u-18.00u)